Sat down the other day and wrote something, and this is just the way it kind of came out...I was trying to think of the feminine and masculine in life, what love and beauty is itself and how the masculine handles it. Wrote some poetry about it, cause that's what I do. Now...this is nowhere near a masculine poem that I posted below mainly because it’s describing beauty, but that's ok...I’m comfortable with my sexuality. After it I'll go a bit deeper into the dynamics between men and women, how they should deal with each other in a long-term relationship and why. I like writting poetry and lyrics BTW if you didn't know that about me already, it helps me to clear my head and get closer to the truth of a matter.
Beauty: by Aaron Neal
She is like the dawn
A sun slowly rising amongst the clouds
Flecking her beauty over the dew covered ground
From her, another day has begun
Her touch is like the breathe of god
Taking shape in a single second for our love
Distracting my gaze in the comfort of bliss
The devil and savior rests in her kiss
She is like the pond
For which I am the peddle thrown upon
She ripples and writhes beneath my touch
I am engulfed but not overwhelmed
For I move on in the name of love
Forcing my soul to turn, just ignoring the pain
Regaining my stride, and just in the nick of time
None of which you could understand
I am the eyes and you are the land
That which I see, you are everything that is beauty.
So that’s it, hope you liked my airy fairy little poem there. I posted it here to describe something which I think many men tend to neglect or not see when they’re in any long term relationship with a woman. From what I’ve learned a man’s role in a relationship is to make good decisions that increase both his and his partner’s long term fulfillment…a woman’s natural role is to reflect his decisions in the moment with the amount of connection that she offers up to him. Women are more in the moment than men it seems. Men tend to take an outside view of life, they are in their heads more, usually less involved in the emotions of a situation, making more plans and trying to manipulate the environment.
Men are outward projecting, women are inward receiving (get your mind out of the gutter)…now I’m not trying to suggest that one is better than the other, that women are incapable of making decisions or that men are cold unreceptive and unemotional decision makers. But think about it for a second, who are the really masculine people that we see in the world; leaders, strong focused individuals, those with the highest social status and amount of choices? Who are the most attractive women around; those that have many men approaching them, those who effect the environment without even having to say a word, those who’re in the moment the most?
Basically it’s this if, as a man, you’re making crappy decisions about your life and the direction of it…if you’re not on your purpose in life or at least trying to move towards the completion of your soul, of your most important goal in life, then your feminine partner will feel less attraction for you. If the feminine sees that she is capable of making better decisions than her masculine partner then the connection, the polarity will lessen sometimes to the point where she will just up and leave (I’ve had it happen to me before, so I know). So…guys, find your purpose and do not let a woman distract you from it, do not just get comfortable and stay where you’re at or in your laziness, become less than you were, thinking she will be there always.
I hope this was helpful, most of this information I gathered for this was from life experiences and some from the key points offered in The Way of the Superior Man audio book by David Deida, check it out by clicking the link, it’s actually a pretty good book…
My name is Jon Schneider, and I’m a self improvement addict.
[Hi Jon]
(The crowd shifts awkwardly as they remember their first experiences with the dangerous and additive “self-improvement”).
I first discovered self improvement when I was a lad just nigh’ of eleven years old, wondering the unfriendly and cold streets of Victorian England…
Oh wait, wrong story!
My personal self improvement journey began . . .
[Letting silence take over the room, the orator furrows his brow as if deep in though. Slightly exasperated, he sighs audibly]
To tell you the truth, I don’t really know.
[The crowd shifts. Not from shock, but from understanding]
I guess, like most people who have traveled down this path, I’ve always had this nagging feeling inside of me. It’s different for different people. To me, it was this all-encompassing feeling of self doubt. I don’t remember when it began, but I do know when I first became consciously aware of it. It was in high school, when I began to get fed up with these thoughts and self doubt. I’d had one relationship and it had been a train wreck from the start, but I was too blind to realize it at the time. I was bullied and I felt unmotivated to do anything with my life – my original plan of becoming a rock star seemed to grow thinner and thinner ever day.
It was time for a change.
At the time, though, I had no idea there was such a thing as self-improvement. Instead, I used the knowledge I had to try to improve my situation. I stood up straighter and walked more confidently. I spoke up in class and became more assertive, almost recklessly assertive. Lastly - and I cannot remember how – I discovered my life purpose of becoming an entrepreneur, which has grown and evolved over the years but none the less helped me focus on the aspects of me I felt needed improvement. I worked on my interpersonal skills, self confidence, and personal image.
This was not my “Aha!” moment though – the one where I became an addict in a relentless drive to improve my life. That came later, during the second half of my Freshman year of college. During the last two years I had worked hard to develop myself but I was still not satisfied. I believe my single largest was one of fear: I was afraid of starting my own business. I had pushed this into the back of my mind for several years now, rationalizing it by saying “I’ll start my first business when I get out of college” and that I was “too young now to start a serious business.” Looking back, it’s amazing how pushing off just one of your goals, even under the guise of focusing on the others, holds your personal development back. I was making no progress in any area of my development and looking back I think it was due to this effect.
Anyway, at some point during the first three months of the new year I read a book entitled The 4-Hour Workweek by author Tim Ferriss. I distinctly recall being unimpressed by it and stopping halfway through. I got this itch, though, like I wanted to read it again about a month after I returned it to the library. I got it again, and this time I was blown away. Though Ferriss never directly talks about it in his book, I came to the realization that I was simply putting this whole “Entrepreneurship” thing due to fear. . .
[The speaker makes a goofy face and quote signs as he slowly says the word “Entrepreneurship” for no apparent reason, slightly confusing the audience]
. . . and that I was going to have to face the fear sooner or later if I was ever going to live my dream. Up until this point in my life I had let my fear rule me. Why do you think I was planning to put off starting a business until I graduated? I was afraid! I also realized that if I wanted to graduate and immediately become a successful Entrepreneur I would have to convince investors to believe in me and my ideas, and the best way to do that was with a track record.
And how would I get that? From success. The only thing I needed was a plan. Luckily, in addition to his other writing in his book Tim laid down a high level 90 page step by step guide to starting and running a business. It was simple enough that I read over it and thought “I could do that.”
I guess you could call that my “Aha!” moment. It was the start of my self-improvement journey in earnest.
I haven’t really slowed down since.
Not too long ago, I was working for a company that I hated, I know you can relate with this if you’ve ever had a near minimum wage job before. I just figured though that work is supposed to suck…why else would they pay you to go there? So I got laid off from there because it was seasonal work and ended up with a lot of time on my hands, took a sort of midlife retirement (if you can call the age of 25 mid life, I’m a smoker so I can). I figured this would be the perfect time to start on a dream that I’ve had for some time now, that of being a motivational speaker.
I knew I would have to sacrifice some of my social life in order to see this goal come through in the three months that I had before I had to go back to work…but I figured anything of importance is worth some sacrifice. So I started on a journey with my co-founder Jon giving me guidance and the missing information that I didn’t even think about (both of us are just average smart guys). Previously neither of us had any web design experience but we taught ourselves via the internet and this is what we came up with. We found the cheapest host for a website around, www.ipage.com where we only paid $1 for the first three months of our site being up…so all In all financially it cost us only 3 bucks to get a dream and a vision off the ground, so having little money is NOT an excuse for never creating your business.
Right now because I’m going to need a bit more skill to actually offer tremendous value to you through these posts and later…through my speeches, I’m going to start going to a place called toastmasters. I know it’s a strange name but they help people out by giving them a place to practice public speaking, they give you honest feedback and build you up through your journey to become a motivational speaker, or an attorney, or even just because you want to be more confident and have better social skills. Look them up on google if you’re interested. Because now there’s no more coding to do for the site I’m going to focus mostly on building up my health and image, I’m going to be a bit selfish for a time so that I can give more later on…please bear with me on this.
I’m thinking about writing a bit more in depth later on about how exactly to make money from a site that you come up with. You really don’t need any products to make money online, just a lot of traffic to your site and some ads from affiliate programs like the one you see on this page. You see the ads that say “ads by google”? Each time a person clicks on one of them we get a small portion of the money that people pay to actually advertize in those ads. Let me know what you think, you guys want to hear a bit more about how to build an online business that makes good enough money so that you never have to go back to the 9 to 5 grind again? let me know.
Hey honey!!! You're amazing!!! For being a guy... I have to say that you're pretty accurate. Coming from a woman's perspective that should tell you something. You and Jon are doing an awesome job on the site! Keep it up! (Get you're mind out of the gutter!) Haha I especially love the "airy fairy" poem that you wrote. Good Job!
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